Simo Ndyoko took it upon himself to make men feel they can share their feelings without being judged.
He embarked on a mission to create a safe space for men to freely express their emotions by establishing “Singamadoda Men Empowerment Space”.
The organisation is redefining masculinity by encouraging men to share their feelings without fear of judgement.
“In our gatherings, we talk about social ills within the community, how to conduct ourselves, the dangers of alcohol, and anger issues, among other things,” said Ndyoko.
Based in Rhini, Eastern Cape, the organisation’s impact is strong. “Talking to men, I have realised that some men feel they are useless; they are actually oppressed,” Ndyoko said.
Behind closed doors, a cycle of abuse and silence can trap men in a world of anguish.
“Men are abused at home and they don’t talk because they are scared of being judged. Many men are burdened by societal expectations and find themselves trapped.
“Men are dying inside. Some choose to stay at the tavern the whole day and get frustrated when it is time to go home because they are not happy in their own homes. They prefer drinking heavily,” said Ndyoko.
The organisation’s efforts extend to demanding equal treatment for men when reporting cases of abuse.
“At the police station, men can’t report abuse because they get laughed at. We need that to change.”
Resident Lungisani Mbazana said there should be more platforms like these.
“When a woman is murdered by a man, we see organisations and communities supporting the victims’ families, but you will never see that happening when a man is killed by a woman.”
Pictured above: Singamadoda Men Empowerment Space provides a safe haven for men to express their feelings
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